During this time I had a call from my mother to tell me that my father had been diagnosed with end stage Cancer and had 3 months to live, I had not had any contact with him for a few years and just couldn’t cope or deal with it and refused to go home to see him. At this time I started to get very hopeful and excited about what this meant and the freedom with the upcoming death of my father. There would be no more maintaining this facade of fake love and family relationship for the sake of my father’s emotional wellbeing, it took a huge toll on me at times and overwhelming sacrifice to keep pretending like he was my father and I was his daughter and only family connection when I knew the real truth of such a betrayal. My father’s health deteriorated over the coming months and my mother told me that my father had decided that he wanted to return to his hometown to die so that he could be buried next to his mother, his brother still lived there with his wife and he would go and stay with until his end of life.
What are bonding and attachment with newborns?
Bonding and attachment are about always responding to your newborn’s needs with love, warmth and care. When you do this, you become a special, trusted person in your baby’s life.
Bonding with newborns: why it’s important Bonding between you and your newborn is a vital part of development.
When your newborn gets what they need from you, like a smile, a touch or a cuddle, your newborn feels the world is a safe place to play, learn and explore. This lays the foundation for your child’s development and wellbeing throughout childhood. Bonding also helps your baby grow mentally and physically. For example, repeated human contact like touching, cuddling, talking, singing and gazing into each other’s eyes make your newborn’s brain release hormones. These hormones help your baby’s brain to grow. And as your newborn’s brain grows, your newborn starts to develop memory, thought and language.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/newborns/connecting-communicating/bonding/bondingnewborns
