The day I was born. I know the story of my birth because I used to hear it from my mother every year on my birthday.
I came into this world fighting for my life as I was “born blue” terminology for being born dead with umbilical cord wrapped around my neck and having to be resuscitated and then spend the next several weeks in an isolated crib and literally fighting for my life completely alone.
In reflection I can determine the significance of this moment and set up for my conditioning for ongoing coping mechanism in my life when faced with trauma is to isolate and go deep within myself and fight for my life alone, this was my life long coping style and survival mechanism.
I remember going missing several times in my childhood and the first time everyone was out looking for me in the neighbourhood only to be found asleep under my bed with my Pandy (lifelong stuffed teddy bear that I was never without). This was a place of safety and comfort for me, I also remember as a child being mute a lot of the time and was always known as the quiet, shy child who never spoke or opened up to people, I never felt like I belonged anywhere and remember feeling very disconnected even at such a young age.
This behaviour I learnt from birth was how I managed and dealt with my life, if I was going through a really difficult period in my life and in a really dark place I dissociated to a point where I shut down and spent long periods of time in isolation to heal and withdraw until the feelings had passed enough to go out into the world again.
What are bonding and attachment with newborns?
Bonding and attachment are about always responding to your newborn’s needs with love, warmth and care. When you do this, you become a special, trusted person in your baby’s life.
Bonding with newborns: why it’s important Bonding between you and your newborn is a vital part of development.
When your newborn gets what they need from you, like a smile, a touch or a cuddle, your newborn feels the world is a safe place to play, learn and explore. This lays the foundation for your child’s development and wellbeing throughout childhood. Bonding also helps your baby grow mentally and physically. For example, repeated human contact like touching, cuddling, talking, singing and gazing into each other’s eyes make your newborn’s brain release hormones. These hormones help your baby’s brain to grow. And as your newborn’s brain grows, your newborn starts to develop memory, thought and language.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/newborns/connecting-communicating/bonding/bondingnewborns
