The psychological and emotional trauma never left, yes my father had died and I had no contact with my family and had chosen my own path I struggled to find peace in my life and sense of happiness. I had met a guy that I had no emotional attachment too and he none to me, there was no love or happy ever after there was just a sense of two people who were in deep pain and struggle who took an opportunity of convenience to set up house and go through the motions of what we thought was expected of us as adults with the aid of those around us who pushed us together at the time. The details are not important or semantics but I was never focused on finding a life partner with money or the perfect package, I just was happy to find someone who wanted me and thought that this was the sign and perfect timing that my wish had been granted when it came to love and I went all in and ignored every red flag that presented itself.
What are bonding and attachment with newborns?
Bonding and attachment are about always responding to your newborn’s needs with love, warmth and care. When you do this, you become a special, trusted person in your baby’s life.
Bonding with newborns: why it’s important Bonding between you and your newborn is a vital part of development.
When your newborn gets what they need from you, like a smile, a touch or a cuddle, your newborn feels the world is a safe place to play, learn and explore. This lays the foundation for your child’s development and wellbeing throughout childhood. Bonding also helps your baby grow mentally and physically. For example, repeated human contact like touching, cuddling, talking, singing and gazing into each other’s eyes make your newborn’s brain release hormones. These hormones help your baby’s brain to grow. And as your newborn’s brain grows, your newborn starts to develop memory, thought and language.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/newborns/connecting-communicating/bonding/bondingnewborns
